Creating the YOU that you can love
Could you imagine spending time with someone 24/7 who seeks comfort in negativity, always critiquing the smallest most unimportant parts of yourself, and constantly bringing up irrelevant events that happened in the past because they think you said something “unusual”?
Does this person sound familiar? Does this person always think the worst of you and your future? Does this person not trust you?
Does this person live in your head?
If you take a moment and pause, we have grown up being exposed to so much terror, pain, and comparisons. How is it not a part of human nature to believe something bad could happen at any moment?
It’s not your fault that there's so much hate stuck in your body. We are living in a world where there is hate everywhere. It is your fault though if you chose to see the hate and do nothing about it.
Breaking it down further, it is expected for most to hate themselves. How sad is that? There is nothing more painful for my ears to hear than when someone out loud says “yeah, whatever I hate myself.”
DON’T SAY THAT ABOUT YOURSELF!
You are your temple and absolute god. You need to mean the world to yourself. You would not be here without yourself. Worship yourself.
Its easy to hate the person inside your head, facing yourself is hard, and loving yourself is not something we are taught growing up…But, do you want to hate the person inside, the soul? Do you want to try to make it a loving place to be? If this was your lover or friend, you would (hopefully) not allow someone to treat you like this. Treat yourself like a friend.
Sorry to break the news but, you will, for the remainder of your entire life, be stuck with the person inside you. No matter what experience you go through, internally or externally, you have a voice inside of you — one that has been around much longer than you can imagine.
At points in our lives, that inner voice has been rejected, denied, stereotyped, judged, and downright disrespected. Because external experiences have broken us, we have consciously and subconsciously turned off parts of our heart.
Although it is turned off, it is never gone. You may feel like you have lost a part of yourself but it’s impossible to lose your inner truth. You can always find the road back home.
You don't have to be an “old soul” to understand life and what your inner world needs.
Firstly, if there is something you do not like about yourself, you can change it! That’s the amazing power of free will! If you have ideas about yourself embedded in your belief system that you do not like, you can change those!
If you do not like the way you dress, change it. If you do not like the way you come off toward others, change it. If you do not like your tone when you are around certain people, change it. If you do not like yourself, ASK YOURSELF WHY.
The “why” is the most important question to ask.
Why am I like this? Why do I do this? Why do I talk like this? Why do I talk to others like this?
Shockingly enough, you will get answers when you ask yourself these types of questions. I am sure you will hear shy broken responses but those are the parts of yourself that you need to love, grace, and attention. That broken inner child needs love.
You can only heal when you are in the power of love.
What have you created for yourself that you do not like? What is it about yourself that you do not like? Why do you not like these parts of yourself?
If you created it, you are 100% able to un-create it or recreate it into something more aligned with your new ambitions. That's the power of undoing what we have been taught. You can unwind beliefs and rewind with your heart. Most likely, someone has told you or taught you these conditions causing you to form these beliefs about yourself.
How you view yourself is how you view the world and how you view the world is how you view yourself. Its a direct relationship.
If you think the world is full of hate and rage, your entire existence will be full of hate and rage. If you think the world is full of love and inspiration, you will be full of love and inspiration.
Secondly, you must come to terms with the negative parts of yourself. Forgive yourself for the good and the bad. Nobody cares what you did last month or last year. Nobody cares if you have to prioritize yourself in certain situations. They may seem jealous at first, but deep down they will honor you for that. The jealousy comes from not being able to do it themselves.
Taking responsibility for your actions and words will cause you to not act out in manners that you will regret because being in charge or what you say will ensure you act in a way where you are respecting yourself.
I would not be able to love myself if I didn't come to terms with things I hated about myself.
I used to hate my name because I thought it was too bold and no one else had it. I couldn’t even find my name spelled correctly at a tourist shop so that made me feel out of the ordinary. I used to hate my freckles because they made me stand out. I used to be so embarrassed at how slow I was in my classes. I decided to start reading books that interested me and found loopholes that served my studying purposes. I used to regret things I said that I thought sounded right in my mind. That caused me to install the “think before you speak” software. This was something that took me a while to learn. There are things in my past that make me cringe but the more I look into the past, the more I lose the present. I am not the person who made those mistakes. I am not the person who judges others by the way they look and the clothes they wear. I am not the person anymore who genuinely enjoyed watching the weight of my words deteriorate the worlds of others. Yes, I did ALL of those but without those actions, I wouldn't fully understand how magnificent it is to be nice and respectful.
Lastly, break THE DAMN BOX you have created in your head about who you are and who you should be.
I am sure you have gotten to the point where you trust everything everybody says outside of you because you have no trust in yourself.
Just like the way we clean our rooms and get rid of garbage, inspecting yourself of trash and blemishes is necessary for the bigger picture of your life.
If it strives to seek validation or to feel better than others, it’s not the box you created for yourself. That's your ego and you won't get far in life letting your ego control the stirring wheel. It is simply the box others created for you and shoved you in.
Every single day that you wake up, you have the power to decide who you want to be and how you want to react. No matter what happens to you externally, it is how you respond that affects your relationship with yourself and the world around you. The more you work together with the team inside of you, the more the team inside of you will work together with you.
Don't wait for the world to change. Change the world for yourself.
The only person in the way of your life is yourself. Step aside and let your soul control the ride.
Cheers to your journey,
Chelsey Grace Jacobs #W2W
#CGJDictionary
